Tuesday, April 24, 2012

The Wreck

   I've struggled over even writing this post. I know it is going to come out sounding all whiny and "poor poor me" and I wasn't really sure I wanted to be THAT honest with folks.  I try for the most part to be as positive as I can  about life.  And why not?  I feel like I've been blessed the past few years.  Then after thinking about it I decided that I pretty much share everything here so why stop now?  There were so many other things that I would rather write about.  But I'm feeling the need to actually say these things if only to get them out of my system.  You see I had another wreck this weekend. Thank goodness it wasn't like the last one I was in.
  They say that most wrecks happen within a few miles of your home. This time I was less than two  miles from home and I hit a patch of gravel. I lost control of the truck. It went slipping and sliding. I tried to do all the things you are supposed to do in that situation but I suppose somehow I must have over corrected.  I slid completely around and flipped the truck and ended upside down. Pretty much totaled the truck for all intents and purposes. To say that Mars is upset would be an understatement.  That truck was his "baby" and was supposed to last us for many years to come.  We had hoped it would be the last one we would own.
      By some sort of miracle I came out of it with only a badly cut ear, a couple of bruises and some stiff muscles. I was lucky. It could have been so much worse.  I had BB the dog with me.  She was in the back of the truck and somehow came out without a single scratch.  Once again I was made to understand that I wasn't quite done here yet.
     I wish I could say the same for the truck.  The picture doesn't do justice to  the damages. It actually looks pretty good in this picture!  I didn't think to take any before Mars started working on it. This one was taken yesterday evening after he had spent the entire day trying to get the doors to open, take the shattered windshield out, air up a couple of tires and pound the cab into some semblance of an actual truck cab. He even attached a chain and had it wrapped around the barn frame and with the help of a come along and a big hammer has been trying to straighten up the frame of the cab. I'm not sure if we'll be able to actually get another windshield to fit in it again but at least he's trying. The motor starts but is now leaking oil, (it lost A LOT of oil when it flipped) the steering is messed up, one rim and tire are toast, the windshield and a couple of other windows are shattered.  I don't really know what all else at the moment. I'm afraid to even find out. I do know that we now are on foot, fifteen miles from town, and have no one here to even call for a ride. Aargggg.... back on that dang pity pot again.  I'm trying so hard not to be. I know that I have so much to be thankful for. 
     This month marks one year here on the land. Almost a year to the day that we got moved in here. I guess I really SHOULD have gone and introduced myself to some of our neighbors this past year.  Somehow though we have just been so busy here working on the place that I kept thinking that I would get around to it eventually. 

      I actually did meet a couple of them right after the wreck.  I was just too scared (freaked out) to do much more than thank them over and over for the help they gave me. 
     There was the lady who was behind me when I flipped the truck. She stopped to make sure I was ok and helped me out of the truck.  And there was another lady who stopped less than a minute later who just happened to be an EMT (with her medical bag in the car) who taped up my ear and stopped the bleeding and checked me over.  She wanted me to go to the hospital and get a couple of stitches.  (I didn't want to tell her that I wasn't going to go because I would have there or back home) 

     The man who lives just down the hill from where the truck flipped has a wrecker.  After speaking with the LEO (who was 45 minutes away and said if we didn't need him then he'd rather not have to come out)  he hooked up the truck, flipped it back upright with the help of two other men who live somewhere around here, and hauled it home for me.  They even helped pick up the stuff that had been tossed out of the truck, including the tool box.  That thing has to weigh at least 300 lbs and has most every hand tool that Mars owns in it. It would have been irreplaceable.    I am ashamed to say that I didn't get anyone's name or if they told me I just don't remember.  I was pretty shook up.  I owe them all so much. 
      I do remember the wrecker driver saying not to worry and that's what folks out here did for one another.  I half way thought someone would come by and check on us but so far we haven't seen anyone. Which is ok, I'm just thankful that they were there when they were.  Angels come in all shapes and sizes don't they!
     Mars is pretty upset with me right now.  Heck, I'm pretty upset right now. I don't know how we are going to be able to afford to get the truck fixed and back on the road.  It's that or find another means of transportation.  Either way this is going to take us awhile to get over.  Hey... at least I'm still here to worry about it!

On a positive note.... I had already gone to the feed store and done the grocery shopping for the month.  So if nothing else we are ok on those fronts for awhile. I just need to stay positive here.   I'm sorry  this has been such a pitiful rant. I just needed to get it off my chest and out in the open.
If you are still reading this, thank you for your patience!
                ~~~~~~  Hey ... I'm Just Sayin' ... ~~~~~~

UPDATE ! kymber over at Framboise Manor has put up a post about all this and is trying to help get us some support. (You are awesome kymber :-)  )And North over at the Gun Blog Black List has graciously allowed her to post something over at his place. Please go over and give them some love!!   I cannot thank each and every one of you enough for all your amazing kindness.

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  1. First, you are ok. Thank God, your guardian angel and heaven above.

    Second, don't take Mars' attitude so personal. You are raw and overwhelmed right now. It could be that Mars is thinking more that you could have been lost. Trucks are just things (important and practical, but really just things).

    Third, go thank your neighbors. Bake cookies and go and connect. It could be that you needed this accident to happen so that you would go and meet your neighbors. Sometimes I need a 2x4 to hit me between the eyes to do something (I'm stupid that way and God has had to bonk me on the head more than once). Maybe there is a neighbor that will become very important to you and yours in the future and this was the only way to get you out to meet them. Remember: you walked away from this...there is something to that.

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    1. Anon, thanks. I really hadn't thought about Mars thinking that way. Go figure, right?
      As for going to the neighbors, I wish I could but out here were we live neighbors are spread out with miles in between.But you are right, this could be a reason to try and meet them. Everything happens for a reason. That I DO believe.

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  2. Count your blessing, for they are many. Look at all the good folks you met and will meet again. You got out of it alive. Swerving to miss a dog, my son hit a culvert and flipped his truck end over end. He, too, had a huge, heavy (made from quarter inch steel plate) tool box that fit across the truck's bed. He got thrown out through the trucks window but the tool box flew out and landed on his head. He left an eight year old son, a wife, a brother, and of course his grieving parents. If it were not for the tool box, he would have walked away from the accident.

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    1. Oh Dizzy, I'm so very sorry about the loss of your dear Son. I know it is still so painful for you all. I am counting my blessings and one of them is having you for a blogger friend.

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  3. Wow. Just wow.
    I am so glad you WALKED away from that. I am so happy you are okay SciFi.

    At first I thought "What a weird reaction on Mar's part. Being so mad about a truck when she is alive and fine!" Then I read Anonymous' comment and THAT makes complete sense. I am sure he isn't mad at the truck being gone [even though it is serves a purpose, it is still JUST a thing] the poor man is probably scared and upset at the thought he almost lost you lost you.

    I know you all are counting your lucky stars and blessings. Take care and be safe.

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    1. Thanks Skippy, things sure could have been a whole lot different for sure. Like you I was kinda clueless till reading that comment as well. At least it makes more sense. So glad you stopped in today and I hope you are doing well. (weller? hehe)

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  4. Glad to see you walked away from it.

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  5. Trucks are replaceable. Maybe not easily, but you would be impossible to replace. Glad you're okay Sci. I won't slap you with a redfish : )

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    1. What doesn't kill us only makes us stronger, hey Craig? And thanks for the pass on the fishslap! LOL!

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  6. oh Sci - you must be so shaken up! i am so very sorry that this happened to you. please be kind and gentle to yourself for the next little while - sometimes a thing like this happens and we kind of go into shock and it isn't for a few days that the full reality of the thing hits us.

    are your neighbours near enough to walk over some of your delicious banana bread? just bang on the door and ask them if any of them were the people who helped you out. it will be fine if they are, or if they are not, you can ask them to suggest who it might have been. if they seem the least bit friendly, tell them about your current situation being without a vehicle. i don't know of any rural/country folk who wouldn't want to help out - it's like the one guy said - it's what rural/country folk do.

    Mars probably has already thought of this, but jam says that if the body is in ok condition - go on kajjiji and try to find a cheap beater and then slowly swap out all of the parts. we wish we were there to help! but i am sure that if you can go out and meet some of your neighbours that some of them would be willing to help, too.

    again, i am just glad that you and BB are ok. oh Sci - i wish i was there to give you a big hug, make you some tea and cook you some yummy meat pie. jambaloney says he would make his special almond cookies for you!

    lots of love being sent your way! your friends,
    kymber and jambaloney

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    1. Sci - i just sent you an email. get back to me as soon as you can k?

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    2. Ok Kymber, it seems you always know just the right things to say and have some of the best ideas. I wish I could be more like you in so many ways!

      Ya know, after all this time being so happy that our neighbors were not "up close" to us, now (for a change) I DO wish they were closer cause I'd surely make them all at least a loaf of bread or a batch of thank you cookies. Although I think I'd just as soon have one of Jamie's almond cookies and some tea right about now.
      I'll check my emails, and thank you again for the kind words. Like I was saying, you always seem to know just what to say.
      Love Ya,
      Sci

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  7. So glad that you're ok, I'm sure you already know that it could have been much, much worse, but it still sucks and I'm sorry :(

    Glad to know that there were so many helpful neighbors around.

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    1. Carolyn, it sure could have. I'm hoping to meet some of those neighbors again. I have much to thank them for.

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  8. :) Kymber is great that way, isn't she? <3 her tons. How could I not she and you were two of my first online friends.

    Oh my friend, I knew when I read your post on facebook yesterday that you were holding back some info, the picture up there proves it. After seeing that...I for once don't seem to have the right words to express how glad I am that you walked away from the accident. Just know that I am and that I love you.

    I seem to remember another conversation we had some time back about how Mars reacts to things. I think he internalizes his feelings, Sci, and like others have said, he was/is probably more scared/worried about you than he is the truck, he just doesn't know how to express it to you and when he tries it comes out sounding angry. If he's swearing and yelling about the truck and how bad it looks...what also might be going through his head at the same time is...Thank God, Sci is still here with me. He loves you, you just gave him a really-really good scare.

    I am so relieved you and BB were able to walk away from this and thank God there were people around to help you. When the time is right, you will see the neighbors again at that time you can express your thanks to them.

    Much love to you & Mars, take care of yourself
    ~Fel~

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    1. teehee - Fel - you and Sci were two of my first online friends and the admiration, respect and love that i feel for both of you - has only grown over the years!

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    2. Fel, It's hard for me to share "bad" stuff. Always has been. After that last wreck you know I try my best to be positive. I'm just so glad to have friends like you.

      I remember that conversation now that you mention it. I honestly have been feeling so bad about how he's been taking things that I didn't realize all the "b*tching" is sure to be his worry coming out. And yeah, I'm sure I scared the heck outta him. Lord knows I scared the heck outta me!

      Much love back to you and Catman and B's.
      Ya'll were my very first "prepper" friends on the net. You and Kymbers!

      And Kymber, "ditto" my friend!

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    3. and a big ditto back! filled with love, hugs and kisses!

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  9. Trucks can be replaced. You can't. Glad you are OK

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    1. Your so right Ian. Of course it would be wonderful if it weren't the only transportation we had! Thanks for stopping by buddy!

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  10. kymber said that you needed help so I have left a present. I might be able to swing more in a few weeks. Glad that everyone is ok, Hang in there a lot of people are praying for you.

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    1. buddy - thank you so much!

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    2. mmasse thank you so much, I am touched by your kindness. As for prayers, I know that they work! Thank you again.

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  11. I did not hear pity in what I read. I heard miracle. You may no have gotten names but you touched souls. Yes, that is what people do in the country. They stick together. Sometimes, we are all we have.

    I understand the frustration regarding transportation. We live 10 miles from town either way and only have one car (which I use like a truck).

    I have faith (most of the time) that things will work out. That what we need will be provided for. It has been our experience so far as we have been unemployed for 4 years now. What we have is from savings, hard work, and blessings from God's messengers.

    I am sure Mars is not really mad at you. He is probably just scared. Scared you could have been killed and scared at how he will be able to provide with the transportation challenge. The work on the truck yesterday was probably just working off a bit of that scared feeling. Be gentle with each other.

    - Genevieve

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    1. Genevieve,the more I think about it the more I realize that it really was a miracle. I don't know what is in His plan but I will just have to trust that with all the prayers going up for us are working. I DO worry about the transport but hopefully we will figure something out.

      As for Mars, I think you are dead right in seeing all that. Thank you so much for your kind words.

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    1. Thanks so much Keads. Stop on in here anytime you want. The door's always open.

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    2. Thanks for the warm welcome SciFi! I am glad to be here. The same to you over at my place.

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  13. if anyone is interested in helping Sci and Mars out - please see this post of mine:

    http://framboisemanor.blogspot.ca/2012/04/urgent-plea-for-your-help-from-me-to.html?showComment=1335286894605#c8155573327693259786

    it will direct you back to this post of Sci's...but please take the time to go and read it. thank you!

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    1. Kymber, I am overwhelmed. I want to just pick you up and hug you tight for all the wonderful prayers and help you and Jamie have sent our way. You would think as much as I write I would be better at expressing myself! But for once, I'm just out of the "right" words to say how much you mean to me.

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    2. and i am glad that i was finally able to prove how much you mean to me! xoxo

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  14. Must've been very scary - glad that you are OK

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    1. thanks for coming over Dani...and thank you for the heartfelt prayers that you mentioned on our blog - i know that Sci and Mars appreciate your prayers!

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    2. Thank you for coming over Dani, you are welcome here anytime! And man oh man it WAS scary! Thank you so much for your prayers. They mean so much to me.

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  15. So,So, glad that your OK. Like every one else, things will work out.

    Just a thought. Maybe just chop the roof off of the truck. Do a little frame and weld, and put a canvas top on that truck. Later on, you could make a hard top for it.

    You both are in our prayers. And Kathi and I will see if we can do a little more.

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    1. Oh Flyer! You are wonderful. I have to admit that with the good wishes and help from all of you, I can't imagine that things won't somehow work out.

      And ya know... that's not a bad idea about the truck cab. I'll have to mention it to Mars. Maybe later though cause right now he's kinda... well... LOL!

      Love to you and to Kathi!

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  16. I read Kymber's post.. I am sorry for your troubles. Glad everyone is alright. Praying for you!!!!

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    1. thank you agirlandhergun - prayers are sometimes the best medicine!

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    2. Your prayers are most appreciated, thank you so much for taking the time to come over.

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    3. i knew that you would. i knew it!

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  17. Thank God you are OK...Trucks can be repaired or replaced. Good people can't be. My thoughts and prayers being sent your way.

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    1. thank you so much Mamma. i know that you have been terribly busy and i want to thank you for taking the time to come here and leave support for Sci.

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    2. Mama Bear, I cannot thank you enough for your support. Bless you and your's, I know how busy you are.

      You are right, trucks can be replaced. Manual WeedPullers can't! LOL. Thank you so much for everything.

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  18. Sci - and everyone else - i am not trying to hog Sci's comments - i just want to be sure to acknowledge the people who came here from our blog.

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    1. Kymber, you aren't hogging anything. I'm so glad you are here,my friend. Your help has been most welcome and most heartfelt.

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  19. I'm so sorry. kymber sent me an email and told me your story. I've been lost in my work and missed your post = glad she contacted me. I've sent prayers and have sent a gift your way. God bless.

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    1. Stephen, you should be taking it easy after all you have been thru lately. I want to say thank you and send big hugs your way as well.And thanks for the prayers as well, I KNOW He hears all of them!

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    2. ugh. Stephen, my dear sweet one - i knew that i could count on you. ugh. cutting onions. need to go and get a tissue. i love you, buddy!

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    3. Hey, I'm just a friend helping my friend...take care and I'm sure the Good Lord will take care of the rest. Love you too, kymber.

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    4. another reason why i love this little community that we have. we take care of each other and the Lord will do the rest. thank you so much, my dear sweet one!

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  20. kymber posted about this on the Gun Blog Black List. I hope this helps to fill your replacement truck donation jar.

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    1. North you are AWESOME! Thank you so very much for everything.

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    2. North - i can't thank you enough for allowing me to post on the GBBL! THIS will certainly help and you are such a wonderful and kind friend to do this for Sci - ugh. it's those dang onions again.

      thank you from the bottom of my heart!

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    3. SciFiChick: No thanks needed - I'm just one of kymber's "little people" doing her bidding.

      Bwahahahaha! (A trademark of Framboise Manor)

      :-) Glad to help!

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    4. North - you are a Nut Job...notice the capitals - bahahahah! buddy - i really appreciate this!

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  21. SciFiChick - I'm incredibly sorry that this happened to you. It's good to hear that you and your dog are okay- and that's most important. Sending you the best of wishes ! I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

    Helga

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  22. Helga, it IS amazing that BB didn't even get a scratch... she was tossed right outta the truck, I think she must have a little "cat" in her. Landed on her feet. Thank you so much for your prayers.

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    1. oh Helga - thank you so much for your prayers! you are worth your weight in gold times 1000! as are your prayers! you are a very dear friend and i knew that i could count on you! xoxoxo

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    1. Thanks Phelan, it sure beats the alternative! :)

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  24. Gift and prayers and well wishes sent.

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    1. Your kindness is truly appreciated. Thanks for coming by and come back anytime!

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    2. Warlock - i knew that i could count on you buddy! thanks so much!

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  25. Sci, Okay now.... I worried about you during the tornadoes and now I worry about you being in an accident. Thank God your okay, this could have been worse. Vehicles are either fixable or replaceable in time. I sent you a little something to help out. As Okie's need to stick together :-) How's your ear? and the rest of your body doing? Is BB okay? Mars will be okay, he was just stressing about his love. Remember the man upstairs is looking out for you girl. Take care and give me an update. P.S. I will drop you an e-mail within the next several days.

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    1. Sandy, I'm sorry! LOL I don't mean to worry you like this. It sure could have been a lot worse. I appreciate your being worried. Thanks for the gift hun. Very sweet of you.

      The ear is healing, although it's gonna look a little weird. Nothing I can't live with though. I'm still a bit stiff but I'm gonna heal. BB is great, she didn't get a scratch or a bruise. I'm still not sure how that happened!
      I'll be sure to keep everyone updated for sure and look forward to your email.

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  26. Hello, I come from Georges Smythes Blog. My, you have so many replies, mine will be insignificant. An accident of any kind gives a shock to the system. Praise God, you came away with hardly a scratch, beside the cut ear. The truck can be replaced, its not flesh, bone, soul or spirit,which you are. I have often thought when things happen with something I love, I am not meant to have it.My hubby has had three incidences with his Harley. He loves the thing, but he and you, are more precious.Lovely to meet you. Greetings from Australia.

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    1. Hi Crystal Mary, thank you for stopping by today. I didn't even know George had posted anything about this mess! As for replies, I'm shocked at how wonderful everyone has been. I feel truly blessed by the prayers and kindness shown. Your comment will never be insignificant to me. Each one is special because someone took the time out of their busy lives to stop by and leave one!

      You are so right about life being more precious than "things". I'm sure that there is a much bigger plan than the one I can see at the moment. It' wonderful to meet you too, and I hope you come back soon!

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  27. Sci - so glad to hear that you walked away from that!! Hugs and prayers. xo~ michele

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    1. Michele, it sure was something huh? Thank you for your kindness (and the hugs too!!) And hugs to your crew as well!

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  28. I have followed your site for a while but always lurk anonymously...lol...anyway, so sorry about your accident. I am relieved you and the dog are going to be ok. I will pray for you and pray that you will be able to see the blessings from something so unfortunate. Hugs.

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    1. So it was YOU that was lurking!! LOL! Thanks for taking the time to leave a comment and even more importantly to send a prayer up for us. I know that there must be blessings to come from all of this. One blessing that I have already found is the love and support of all of you. Welcome, and thanks for taking the time to leave a comment.

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  29. I'm here Sci, glad you're okay!

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  30. MM!! I was just thinking about you. It was one of those "What would MM do?" kind of things. I almost picked up the dang phone too, guess I still could! LOL! Thanks hun, Things sure could have been a whole lot worse. I'm starting to see that more clearly now.

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  31. Kymber sent me a heads-up late yesterday afternoon, sorry about your truck, but glad you're ok. I just dropped an amount into your paypal account.

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    1. thanks so much Matt - i really appreciate this!

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    2. Thanks so much Matt, I truly appreciate your help.

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  32. Glad to know you're ok. I found your blog thru Gorges..will be following.

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  33. First of all, let me say that I'm super glad you are still with us!

    If you were closer, I'd give you my '91 Ford F150 to use for as long as you needed it. It ain't pretty, but it runs!

    If there is anything I can do, don't hesitate to send me an email, my friend!

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    1. Jim, thanks for the kind thoughts. Hey if we were closer I just might have taken you up on that.... oh and a nice cup of coffee on the patio as well.

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  34. Thank God you are ok. You definitely had some Angels watching over you!

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  35. Yes Ma'am! Thanks for the prayers hun!

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  36. Yikes!! Thank God that you are ok. Put aloe on the ear to help with the healing... amazing stuff. Prayers for you both & best wishes!

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  37. I am so glad you are ok, praying for you

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  38. Glad you are okay. Always wear a seat belt it will save your life.

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  39. I am late as always, on the road until just a couple days ago, and just heard over at F.Manor. I am so glad you weren't hurt any worse than you were. Trucks can be fixed, you would be irreplacable.

    If I can do anything at all to help either prayers or a donation to the "it'll buff out" fund, just drop me your contact info in a comment with a "DO NOT POST" heading it and I'll do whatever it takes to make things better.

    Big hug.

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  40. YOU are okay, that is the main thing... Trucks and parts can be replaced, you can't...

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  41. As long as you're ok, that's the important thing...

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